ENFP

对ENFP类型的人来说，最重要的是自己能看到各种可能的情况，并与各行各色的人来往。他们是"理想型"和"人性型"的结合类型。在他们的眼里，每一个人、每一样事物都只是和谐整体的一部分。从日常小事到为人类造福的伟大事业中，他们都希望自己既是一个有用（至少，是他们自己所认为的"有用"）的人，又能为别人所喜欢和尊重。他们会对新观点、新思想很感兴趣，虽然最终会由于某个原因而弃之不理。

装疯作傻是ENFP人的另一魅力所在，它能使他们很快地融入到更加庸俗的人当中。他们很风趣，待人友善，很真挚地爱着人们，然而在交往的注意广度可能并不宽。ENFP类型的人对新朋友或刚认识不久的人很感兴趣，却经常会将老朋友抛到脑后。

稍欠成熟的ENFP人可能时刻都需要感觉到自己是注意的焦点，希望大家都认为自己是很棒、很迷人。

在涉及世界观方面的各种问题上，ENFP人经常会有自己强烈的信仰。他们通常会运用社会技巧和关系逐渐去说服人们接受那些正确的观点，有时甚至会有一种为拯救世界，我不入地狱谁入地狱的悲壮。

ENFP人能随遇而安，极易适应工作环境。他们有自己大胆的想法，在"头脑风暴"中有突出的贡献。然而，对他们来说，保持不变可不是一件容易的事，因为他们会很快的对一件东西厌烦，尤其当有更新、更有趣的东西出来时。但当开会、规定最后完事期限以及完成所交代的枯燥无味的琐事时，他们也是个拖延的人。只有当他们与 Judger(J)公事时，他们才会收起懈怠，发挥出最高的效率。

无论在信念里，还是实践中，ENFP人都憎恶官僚作风，他们时常会嘲笑其中的某一方面。

冒险特质的记者型（ENFP）

若你是一个记者型

你相信生命是丰富的，爱情是多彩多姿而且拥有很多创意的。尽管上帝把一只猎犬的强健精力，和一对蜜月期的新婚夫妇的热情结合起来，却仍只不过达到你永无止境的生命热忱之一半。

当你恋爱时

“儿戏的恋爱”是形容你恋爱态度的最佳名词：好玩的、活泼的、耍闹的、可爱的，同时心中永远是年轻的。不管你的年纪多大或是你曾经在爱情里受过多少次伤害，当面对爱情时，你永远都是永恒的乐观者。

当你碰到一个你觉得有吸引力的人时，你并不是那种会小心进展的人。你很有可能会热烈地掉入爱情的漩涡里，快速、随兴且纵情的。你总是学不会先有所保留，尤其是面临即将展开的一段新鲜刺激的恋情时。

是的，承诺会让你害怕。这可以解释为何你到30岁、40岁、50岁或是更老时还是单身。但你绝对喜欢那种与人共享的亲密感情。只要能够找到那个特别的人，你会就此把生活安定下来。

你永远都准备好再尝一口“爱情的鸡尾酒”！谁晓得呢？这一次你可能很幸运地找到一位愿意和你一起分享喜悦和冒险的人；同时，也纵容你饰演自己：一个热忱、无节制、聪明而且对生命充满想像力的恋人。

你的最佳恋爱类型

若你是一个女性记者型

你会和教育家型(ENFJ)或是你的镜中影像，也就是记者型的人拥有良好的关系。记者型将会成为你最佳的伴侣和情人—那一种可以为爱情带来无止境的欢乐和创意的人。

若是你选择教育家型，请确定他的果断偏向不会太过强烈。如果不小心选择了一个强烈的果断者，他也许会抑制你自发性的创意。

若你是一个男性记者型

通常和女性记者型或哲学家型(INFP)都相配。这两种都是体贴的、浪漫的女人，可以和你随兴爱玩的特质互补。

若你的理想情人是一个记者型

你可以在哪里遇到一个记者型情人？

记者型喜欢热烈的交谈和有趣的人物。同时，和哲学家型及作家型一样，他们喜欢那些围绕着心理学、哲学、艺术和帮助他人的活动。

和哲学家型及作家型不同的是，记者型会抓紧每一个可以和社会接触的机会。他们喜欢照在身上的聚光灯，同时，他们可能也是一位卓越的教师和大众演说家。

记者型的人也会固定参加书廊的开幕典礼、品酒会、慈善募款会、演奏会、演讲和剧团演出。他们也有可能是单身美食俱乐部的会员—那是一个为有品位的单身人士而设的餐会。

除此之外，在舞蹈班、宠物秀、新闻俱乐部、文化庆典和社区活动中都能找到记者型的人物。他们也常参与一些与人类潜能相关的座谈会，好比像美国心理学学会之类的组织。

最有机会遇到有社会意识的记者型人物的地方是在慈善或政治组织中(他们通常扮演领导者的角色)，例如绿色和平、美国艾滋病研究基金会(AMFAR)、人道社团、癌症协会等等。

想要遇见一个记者型吗？很简单。只要到任何政治、心理学和哲学活动发生的地点，都可以在混杂的人群中找到你的记者型情人。

在上一次遍及全州的选举活动中，爱米丽自愿为*党工作，因此认识了奥斯卡，一个喜爱美洲和美国政治的墨西哥籍美国人，同时是一个记者型的人物。奥斯卡是一个令人难以置信的帅气且聪明的男人，他热爱赛莎拉丁舞蹈、拉丁式食物。不久后，他也爱上了爱米丽。

两人天南地北地热切对谈，他们从世界和平谈到死刑，谈论着任何话题。爱米丽和奥斯卡很快地计划以家庭的身份投*党一票：作为丈夫和妻子。

如何与一个记者型情人约会？

虽然记者型有可能会被一大堆朋友围绕，不过别担心！他们总是随时准备认识有趣的人物。他们外向和观察型(有弹性)的特质，会鼓励他们去展开一段关于他们最深层的价值观、信念和偏好的对话。你需要做的只是询问对方关于各式各样他感兴趣的问题：包含人类潜能、艺术、如何在世界制造一些不同，诸如此类的事。

一旦你的记者型伴侣开始说话，也许没有办法让他停下来。但这没有关系，这表示你的记者型伴侣正享受着那个时光，同时也被话题引起了兴趣。现在你就可以提出约会的邀请，或许提议参加你的记者型伴侣其中一个喜好的活动—那个他刚刚花了一个钟头谈论的活动。

如何赢得记者型情人的爱？

与你的记者型情人分享他们对生命的好奇心，和难以抑制的热忱，并且和对方一起参加有趣、活泼的约会，例如：

*神秘的剧院晚宴。邀请你的记者型情人出席这类娱乐性的晚宴表演，你可以一边享受美食，一边观赏男女服务生(他们同时也是演员)演出一场神秘的谋杀案。

*舞会。参加乡村音乐舞会、赛莎拉丁舞蹈，或是去夜总会。切记要与一大群朋友共同跳舞。

*到公园或海边放风筝。带一瓶红酒和一本薄薄的诗集，享受星空下的浪漫。

*恋爱锦囊：充满想像力与惊喜的约会。

俘虏一个记者型的心最好的方法是通过对方的想像力。若你费尽心思为记者型情人设计新颖有趣的约会经验，你会得到对方热烈的回应：像是对生命无比的吸引力、热忱和投入的爱。

当道格拉斯试图打动他心仪的情人珊—一个记者型的艺术家时，他让自己的想像力天马行空地驰骋。在几个星期固定的电影和晚餐后，道格拉斯觉得该是时候来些不一样的东西—较先前更为刺激的。

首先道格拉斯请珊的一个朋友打扮成男管家，并把珊载到一个浪漫的隐秘地方。那个男管家交给她一张字条，上面写着：

“我亲爱的，这个仆人将带领你到一个秘密的海边。准备展开冒险吧！爱你的道格拉斯。”

当珊抵达她最爱的海滩时，道格拉斯的一个朋友交给她另外一张字条和一朵玫瑰花，并且指示她跟随字条上的提示，寻找等待她的爱人。

在她的冒险结束时，珊发现道格拉斯躺在沙滩上，穿着游泳衣、戴着领结，四周都是准备好的酒宴、海鲜、龙虾和美味佳肴。

深深被道格拉斯的创意和浪漫特质打动的珊流下了幸福的泪水。他们喝着美酒、享受着美食，过着有如贵族般的生活，两人像失散多年的情人般做着爱，直到夜深。这是他们生命中最浪漫的一次经验。

如何和记者型情人拥有美好的性关系？

和其他的追求意义者一样，记者型希望他们的关系在性行为的欢愉背后同样有意义—一种心灵或心理的连接也是很重要的。

虽然记者型的人会花时间去培养这种情感和意义，却也可以因为感受到愉悦的情绪或对某个人有直觉的好感，而很轻易地在一个很短的时间内和一个人发生性关系。

一旦他们陷入一种恋爱的情绪时，记者型享受角色扮演和文字上的*：喊出他们情人的名字(真实的或捏造的)并且把想像力发挥到极致。

想要和一个记者型的情人*吗？你大可开始展开行动。穿上护士的制服或是西部牛仔服装，让最*的幻想成真。

如何和记者型情人维持一段长久的关系？

男人一致地把女性记者型评比为他们(另一个最高名次的选择是女性主人型—ESFJ)最理想配偶的前两名。这个发现可能可以被如此解释：女性记者型象征着男性对其终极伴侣的理想—一个聪明、敏感、幽默且富有想像力的女人；从很多方面而言，和他在情感上及心灵上相当匹配。

男性记者型也是女性之间大热门的选择。他的一个缺点是他有可能会因为“也许还有一个更好的人”这样的想法而去追求另一个猎物。有些男性记者型认为有必要去追求他们那个不可能的梦想—一个超现实神话般的女人，代表着一切最好的价值：美丽、智慧、个性和灵魂。

当然，这种浪子式的男性记者型不太可能找到他们理想的女人，他也许会花掉大半辈子的时间从一段感情跳到另一段感情。他的探索并不只是为了满足一时之欲，俘虏更多的女人。反之，他的寻觅是基于一种要找到他真正的女人这样的需求—一个完美的女人，一个可以使他变得完全的女人，一个可以满足他对意义和情感渴望的女人。

虽然四下游移的目光会造成问题，大部分的男性记者型通常会为了一个女人投注他们的想像力和爱慕，只要她可以在他对生命的能量和热忱上与其相配。

虽然男性记者型和女性记者型两者一旦坠入一段长久的关系时，通常都会很快乐，他们却也同时发现要对一个人付出是有困难的。根据我的研究，记者型的恋人为最不愿意投入婚姻的恋爱类型的前三名—仅次于挑战者型(ESTP)和表演者型(ESFP)。因为记者型的人强烈的希望拥有弹性的自由，同时拥有开放的选择，在面对要和一个人共度余生、白头到老时，他们可能会有所迟疑。

除了上述可能的障碍，如果可以了解并欣赏他们永远像爱丽斯梦游仙境般的思考态度、对生命的奇妙的热情、永不满足的好奇心、强烈的需要肯定别人并且被别人肯定的态度；最重要的是，他们对自由和弹性空间的向往。明白这些之后，你将可以和一个记者型恋人发展一段长久的恋爱关系。若是可以给对方所需要的空间和改变的余地，这个好玩又富有想像力的情人，可以在长久的发展中，逐渐变成一个令人欣喜且近乎完美的伴侣。

The Inspirer

As an ENFP, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you take things in primarily via your intuition. Your secondary mode is internal, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit in with your personal value system.

ENFPs are warm, enthusiastic people, typically very bright and full of potential. They live in the world of possibilities, and can become very passionate and excited about things. Their enthusiasm lends them the ability to inspire and motivate others, more so than we see in other types. They can talk their way in or out of anything. They love life, seeing it as a special gift, and strive to make the most out of it.

ENFPs have an unusually broad range of skills and talents. They are good at most things which interest them. Project-oriented, they may go through several different careers during their lifetime. To onlookers, the ENFP may seem directionless and without purpose, but ENFPs are actually quite consistent, in that they have a strong sense of values which they live with throughout their lives. Everything that they do must be in line with their values. An ENFP needs to feel that they are living their lives as their true Self, walking in step with what they believe is right. They see meaning in everything, and are on a continuous quest to adapt their lives and values to achieve inner peace. They're constantly aware and somewhat fearful of losing touch with themselves. Since emotional excitement is usually an important part of the ENFP's life, and because they are focused on keeping "centered", the ENFP is usually an intense individual, with highly evolved values.

An ENFP needs to focus on following through with their projects. This can be a problem area for some of these individuals. Unlike other Extraverted types, ENFPs need time alone to center themselves, and make sure they are moving in a direction which is in sync with their values. ENFPs who remain centered will usually be quite successful at their endeavors. Others may fall into the habit of dropping a project when they become excited about a new possibility, and thus they never achieve the great accomplishments which they are capable of achieving.

Most ENFPs have great people skills. They are genuinely warm and interested in people, and place great importance on their inter-personal relationships. ENFPs almost always have a strong need to be liked. Sometimes, especially at a younger age, an ENFP will tend to be "gushy" and insincere, and generally "overdo" in an effort to win acceptance. However, once an ENFP has learned to balance their need to be true to themselves with their need for acceptance, they excel at bringing out the best in others, and are typically well-liked. They have an exceptional ability to intuitively understand a person after a very short period of time, and use their intuition and flexibility to relate to others on their own level.

Because ENFPs live in the world of exciting possibilities, the details of everyday life are seen as trivial drudgery. They place no importance on detailed, maintenance-type tasks, and will frequently remain oblivous to these types of concerns. When they do have to perform these tasks, they do not enjoy themselves. This is a challenging area of life for most ENFPs, and can be frustrating for ENFP's family members.

An ENFP who has "gone wrong" may be quite manipulative - and very good it. The gift of gab which they are blessed with makes it naturally easy for them to get what they want. Most ENFPs will not abuse their abilities, because that would not jive with their value systems.

ENFPs sometimes make serious errors in judgment. They have an amazing ability to intuitively perceive the truth about a person or situation, but when they apply judgment to their perception, they may jump to the wrong conclusions.

ENFPs who have not learned to follow through may have a difficult time remaining happy in marital relationships. Always seeing the possibilities of what could be, they may become bored with what actually is. The strong sense of values will keep many ENFPs dedicated to their relationships. However, ENFPs like a little excitement in their lives, and are best matched with individuals who are comfortable with change and new experiences.

Having an ENFP parent can be a fun-filled experience, but may be stressful at times for children with strong Sensing or Judging tendancies. Such children may see the ENFP parent as inconsistent and difficult to understand, as the children are pulled along in the whirlwind life of the ENFP. Sometimes the ENFP will want to be their child's best friend, and at other times they will play the parental authoritarian. But ENFPs are always consistent in their value systems, which they will impress on their children above all else, along with a basic joy of living.

ENFPs are basically happy people. They may become unhappy when they are confined to strict schedules or mundane tasks. Consequently, ENFPs work best in situations where they have a lot of flexibility, and where they can work with people and ideas. Many go into business for themselves. They have the ability to be quite productive with little supervision, as long as they are excited about what they're doing.

Because they are so alert and sensitive, constantly scanning their environments, ENFPs often suffer from muscle tension. They have a strong need to be independent, and resist being controlled or labelled. They need to maintain control over themselves, but they do not believe in controlling others. Their dislike of dependence and suppression extends to others as well as to themselves.

ENFPs are charming, ingenuous, risk-taking, sensitive, people-oriented individuals with capabilities ranging across a broad spectrum. They have many gifts which they will use to fulfill themselves and those near them, if they are able to remain centered and master the ability of following through.

What does Success mean to an ENFP?

ENFPs are motivated in everything that they do by a desire to understand the world around them. They are constantly searching about, mentally and physically, for input that will help them to better understand the Big Picture. They are open-minded to new people and new experiences; they're eager for the opportunity to understand what the new people and experiences are all about. ENFPs use their understanding of the world to serve the agendas of their value systems. An ENFP's value system often includes respect for the needs and desires of individual people over the needs of a social group. Their respect for the individual makes them dislike controlling others, and being controlled by others. ENFPs are passionate about their beliefs, whatever they may be. They often stubbornly adhere to their value system regardless of threats to its validity. They are more concerned with keeping true to what they believe than they are with expectations or demands from the social group that they function within. ENFPs dislike personal criticism, because it threatens their validity as an individual and the validity of their value system. ENFPs may internalize anger rather than express it; their respect for other individuals makes it difficult for them to hurt others. An ENFP's feeling of success depends upon the availability of opportunities to grow their understanding of the world, upon feeling that they're living true to their personal value system, and upon the condition of their closest relationships.

Allowing Your ENFP Strengths to Flourish

As an ENFP, you have gifts that are specific to your personality type that aren't natural strengths for other types. By recognizing your special gifts and encouraging their growth and development, you will more readily see your place in the world, and be more content with your role.

Potential Problem Areas

With any gift of strength, there is an associated weakness. Without "bad", there would be no "good". Without "difficult", there would be no "easy". We value our strengths, but we often curse and ignore our weaknesses. To grow as a person and get what we want out of life, we must not only capitalize upon our strengths, but also face our weaknesses and deal with them. That means taking a hard look at our personality type's potential problem areas.

Most of the weaker characteristics found in ENFPs are due to their dominant Extraverted Intuition overshadowing the personality to the extent that they don't apply judgement to anything. Or, they may use their primary judging function (Introverted Feeling) to support the agenda of Extraverted Intuition, i.e. to rationalize and support the idea of welcoming all experiences and accepting all individuals. In such cases, an ENFP may show some or all of the following weaknesses in varying degree:

Explanation of Problems

Nearly all of the problematic characteristics described above can be attributed in various degrees to the common ENFP problem of wanting to understand and experience everything at any cost. If the ENFP does not learn how to discriminate things and people in their external environment, the ENFP will begin to use their judging function (Introverted Feeling) as a "rubber stamper" to support their agenda to seek out experiences. This is a natural survivalistic technique for the ENFP personality. The main driver to the ENFP personality is Extraverted Intuition, whose purpose is to understand the world as one Big Picture, seeking connections and meaning in everything. If their ability to seek understanding is threatened, the ENFP shuts out the threatening force. This is totally natural, but unfortunately the individual who exercises this type of agenda protection regularly will become more and more unable to apply objective judgment to anything. When the unbalanced ENFP does apply judgement, it will generally be skewed to support their subjective agenda. They will always find justification for their own inappropriate behaviour. They will be unable to finish anything that they start, and generally wander through life from experience to experience.

It's very common for ENFPs to resist applying judgement until they feel they truly understand a person or situation. However, part of the understanding process includes using discernment to classify qualities. If the ENFP shuts judgment off entirely, he or she will not achieve their ultimate goal of understanding; rather they will jump from experience to experience in a purposeless fashion.

Anger can be a problem for anybody, but may be especially so for ENFPs who have not sufficiently developed their Introverted Feeling. The desire to keep everything non-judgmental, combined with the tendency to use Introverted Feeling as justification rather than true judgement is a recipe for suppressed anger. These are very contradictory forces. "I hate you for judging me" is an ironic feeling, but is unfortunately common. The inability to apply judgment, or to accept negative judgment, makes it difficult for the ENFP to express anger, as anger often comes with negative judgment in tow. Therefore, the ENFP stews in their anger, rather than dealing with it.

Solutions

To grow as an individual, the ENFP needs to focus on applying judgement to all of their perceptions. This means they need to decide how they really feel about people, places and things, rather than allowing their feelings to hang open indeterminately. The ENFP needs to understand that developing their ability to discern qualities does not threaten their ability to understand the world, but rather enhances it, and enhances their personal changes for achieving a measure of success in their lives.

The ENFP concerned with personal growth will pay close attention to their motivation for making a judgment. Are they trying to really determine the objective value or merit of something, or are they trying to defend their individual right to not be judged or controlled? The goal when judging something is to not let your life experiences cloud your opinions. Obviously, this is not entirely possible, but it is the exercise to keep in mind. You want to open your mind to judgment without feeling threatened, and without using your own judgement in a defensive, rationalizing mode.

Living Happily in our World as an ENFP

As can be seen from the above, some ENFPs can have difficulty fitting into society. Their problems are often due top feeling different from others because of their dominant Intuition, and being unable to stick to anything long enough to feel a sense of accomplishment. They feel like they don't fit in, and can't find the place where they belong in the world. The ENFP who consistently makes decisions and applies classifications to their ideas will be able to turn their ideas into reality, and experience the feelings of accomplishment and success that accompany being effective.

The key to personal growth for the ENFP is competent execution of Introverted Feeling. It's difficult for most to understand what this means, much less incorporate that directive into your life. I have created some action-oriented suggestions that will help lead you down the path towards more effective use of the Introverted Feeling function. Specific suggestions:

• When you feel angry or resistant toward someone who you feel is criticizing you, take this as a cue that you are not judging effectively. When that happens, take a step back from your anger and try to really hear what the person is saying objectively. Rather than expending mental energy in defining how the other person is wrong, try to judge what the person is actually saying, without respect to yourself.
• Periodically make lists of goals and accomplishments. Revisit your goals and accomplishments often to maintain a sense of direction.
• Spend time alone regularly for the purpose of thinking through issues in your life.

Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve ENFP Success

1. Feed Your Strengths! Make sure you have opportunities to have new experiences to feel your quest of understanding the world.
2. Face Your Weaknesses! Realize and accept that some traits are strengths and some are weaknesses. By facing your weaknesses, you can overcome them and they will have less power over you.
3. Express Your Feelings. Don't let anger get bottled up inside you. If you have strong feelings, sort them out and express them, or they may become destructive!
4. Make Decisions. Don't be afraid to have an opinion. You need to know how you feel about things in order to be effective.
5. Smile at Criticism. Try to see disagreement and discord as an opportunity for growth, because that's exactly what it is. Try not to become overly defensive towards criticism; try to hear it and judge it objectively.
6. Be Aware of Others. Remember that there are 15 other personality types out there who see things differently than you see them. Most of your problems with other people are easier to deal with if you try to understand the other person's perspective.
7. Be Aware of Yourself. Don't stint your own needs for the sake of others too much. Realise you are an important focus. If you do not fulfill your own needs, how will continue to be effective and how will others know you are true to your beliefs?
8. Be Accountable for Yourself. Don't waste mental energy finding blame in other's behaviour, or in identifying yourself as a victim. You have more control over your life than any other person has.
9. Assume the Best. Don't distress yourself by assuming the worst. Remember that a positive attitude creates positive situations.
10. When in Doubt, Ask Questions! Don't assume that the lack of feedback is the same thing as negative feedback. If you need feedback and don't have any, ask for it.